We are super pleased to introduce guest contributor John Ray! John is going to be chiming in on all things Razorback Greenway. Why? Because the Greenway has become a very important part of Northwest Arkansas. And if you ever ride the Greenway chances are you have run into or passed John. He logged 5000 miles (mostly on the Greenway) last year. We are looking forward to his future posts on where to eat, drink and be merry along the Greenway. Also all things related to the commuting lifestyle. Without further adieu. Please meet John Ray!
Why I Ride
or, You Can’t Outrun Grief, So You Better Get a Bike
By John Ray
My wife Jane was the first one to figure it out.
She could take her old Giant out and ride the trails that formed the Razorback Greenway in its earliest days. On her bike, she could cry, cuss, scream or just…be. Dark sunglasses and the noise of the wind concealed the real reasons for her ride.
These were brutal days, the first weeks and months after our youngest daughter Olivia was killed by an impaired college student just a mile from our home near the university. The grief was more than mental; it was a physical thing. It constantly threatened to overwhelm us if we didn’t work it out, find a way to physically release it. As I said, Jane figured out before I did that the simple act of riding a bike was an effective way to work off the weight of overwhelming grief.
Following her lead, I soon unearthed my outdated, undersized Schwinn 5.11 and took the first painful pedal strokes myself. Before long, we were both pushing farther and riding longer. Then we sold one of our cars and bought two new Cannondale hybrids from our friend Ben at The Bike Route. Soon we began looking forward to riding. Biking became something more than just a grief-management strategy. It helped us begin to feel alive again, to explore our forever-changed world in a non-threatening way. Bikes and gears and routes all became tools we could use to relate in a healthy manner to a world that had stopped making sense. It gave us an experience to orient to, and from.
Look, it wasn’t a magic bullet that fixed everything. There was so much more, so many other people who carried us through, but the bikes hold a special place in the midst of it all.
It’s been six years since those first small ventures out, and both of us continue to ride. Biking is now my primary form of transportation. I logged 5000 miles last year, mostly on the Greenway. I’ve ridden when the temps hovered around 10 and when they scorched up over 100. I’ve ridden through snow and storms. I’ve nearly collided with just about every form of humanity and wildlife that populates NWA. I’ve made a host of friends in the restaurants, coffee shops, parks and bike stores along the route. I’ve learned so much about myself, this area, biking for recreation, transportation and therapy.
These are my stories along with a bit of what I’ve learned.
Grace and peace y’all. Let’s ride.
Can’t wait for more.
Careful what you wish for
This is so interesting to hear your experience of how your cycling helped you and your wife through your grief. I have found the exact same experience. My husband died two years ago, and last fall Victoria at The Bike Route got me on my Cannondale hybrid as well. It’s hard to explain to other people how the riding helps with my mental and emotional health. I’m turning into a bit of a fanatic and would log even more miles if my body could handle it. Thanks for sharing.
Cheryl,
Thanks for sharing this. It is hard to explain what it does, isn’t it? Grace and peace as you continue to ride. And yeah, Victoria and the people at the Bike Route are pretty awesome.
Great addition Robin! And great primer John. Biking is about way more than stretchy pants and K(Q)OMs, and this site is a fantastic example of that.
Evan,
Right on, although I have to confess that I am not immune to feeling challenged when I get passed at times on the Greenway. 🙂
The R’back Greenway is awesome. When I began my journey into sobriety, I called my first sponsor and I asked him what I could do to alleviate my anxiety and anger. He asked me if I had a bike. Well, of course, I did. He was quite emphatic when he told me to get on and ride….
I’ve been on this journey for 31+ years and have been riding the whole time. Thank G-d for my bike and the wonderful experiences that I’ve had!
Jacob,
This is so great. It’s an honor to ride the same paths as you.
Grace and peace,
Thank you so much John for your insightful and inspiring stories!
I completely relate to the “sanity” ride (or run works well for me also)!
I look forward to your next venture out!
Give me some notice(after the hogeye an bentonville half marathon) I would enjoy being able to tag along!